tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post1354844753590820427..comments2024-03-27T02:14:55.072-07:00Comments on ICT in Early Childhood Education: The Child Discipline Act and The ReferendumBeverly Kayehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08429304628360932037noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-13229384252787283772009-11-17T09:44:21.456-08:002009-11-17T09:44:21.456-08:00Hi Ozy - thanks for your comment. Under the new la...Hi Ozy - thanks for your comment. Under the new law you definitely CAN correct your child - just not with physical force. Children are competent and capable of learning without the use of force. There ARE other ways which the law requires us to use.<br /><br />Hi Anonymous - I'm sorry you didn't sign your name. It is always interesting to know who is behind a comment. Thanks for your encouragement. Due to illness and a new job position I have not had the time to think. Very frustrating. I hope to be back to blogging soon.Beverly Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08429304628360932037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-55832882845071171372009-11-17T03:13:00.174-08:002009-11-17T03:13:00.174-08:00It is extremely interesting for me to read the blo...It is extremely interesting for me to read the blog. Thanks for it. I like such themes and everything that is connected to them. I would like to read more on that blog soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-15753013148589266722009-10-31T02:34:20.673-07:002009-10-31T02:34:20.673-07:00Cant agree with the majority of comments on this p...Cant agree with the majority of comments on this post. Do you people have your heads in the sand. Although the issue is old, the wording of the referendum was applying the re written law as it was written. <br /><br />Under the new law I cant correct my child. That is what the law says. If you believe the question is worded wrong you must agree the actual law is worded wrong.Shem Banburyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12958331886351095289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-42629330025250249142009-09-17T00:01:13.699-07:002009-09-17T00:01:13.699-07:00Parliament granted children protection from assaul...Parliament granted children protection from assault by their parents. The law is working well but is under threat from an unnecessary and expensive referendum.NCLEX rn reviewhttp://teachingsolutions.org/nclexrnreview.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-11019159151717041392009-06-30T16:23:57.356-07:002009-06-30T16:23:57.356-07:00I'm not from NZ but I would definitely display...I'm not from NZ but I would definitely display that badge =)Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11236628012775069322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-62735949160698994612009-06-30T03:43:04.420-07:002009-06-30T03:43:04.420-07:00Hi Hides - I completely agree that the question ha...Hi Hides - I completely agree that the question has the answer in it already and is very misleading. I thought I heard recently that there is a "Stop the Referendum" campaign starting... will have to look out for it. Maybe even create a "Stop the Referendum" blogger's badge (when I have time!!)Beverly Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08429304628360932037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-59510917295104464302009-06-29T23:29:42.721-07:002009-06-29T23:29:42.721-07:00I do totally agree that the referendum is worded w...I do totally agree that the referendum is worded with bias and it is definitely wasteful of NZ Tax payer's money. There is little point presenting a referendum when the 'answer' is already in the question, it is part of being a good parent.<br /><br />That is not to say that parents who do hit their children are bad parents or even uneducated parents. Some parents are aware of many ways to manage behaviour and choose smacking because it is rather efficient in the moment.<br /><br />It is really important though that we continue to send the message that it's not okay to use force with a child. It really does shape the way they interact with others at the time and in the future.Audreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11236628012775069322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-63392359681322785402009-06-25T02:58:37.607-07:002009-06-25T02:58:37.607-07:00LOL Mr Spoono is often mentioned in our house. My ...LOL Mr Spoono is often mentioned in our house. My eldest son reckons he paved the way for my other two children and often plays up being 'beaten' so they could be spared :). But in all seriousness I think he does not really remember and it is more us, as adults who bare the scars of embarrassment of our first faltering parental steps.Jane Nichollshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185395110248629846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-77793999142103405432009-06-25T02:08:07.968-07:002009-06-25T02:08:07.968-07:00I have many vivid happy memories of childhood but ...I have many vivid happy memories of childhood but I do remember being smacked with a hairbrush (and I would say it was the only time I was every smacked!), I wonder if I remember because it was the only time or whether I was really hurt that my father could do this to me... luckily i love him dearly and have never held it against him:-) Does your son remember Mr Spoono Jane?Manaia Kindergartenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09233159606823117013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-55259440667814640652009-06-22T20:43:12.626-07:002009-06-22T20:43:12.626-07:00Wow Jane - thanks so much for sharing that. I too ...Wow Jane - thanks so much for sharing that. I too was bought up in a Christian home and was smacked about 5 times in my first 12years (once with the wooden spoon). I don't begrudge my parents and I turned out ok - but that doesn't mean that it was right, or that there isn't a better way. As you say, it doesn't make sense that you have to hurt someone to show them you love them! Good on you guys for being great reflective parents and looking for and finding a better way.Beverly Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08429304628360932037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-38467318591085197832009-06-22T13:30:17.398-07:002009-06-22T13:30:17.398-07:00Here is a confession of a parent who has smacked h...Here is a confession of a parent who has smacked her children. I was a member of a pentecostal church where we were told that smacking was an important way of showing our children we loved them through 'correcting' them. Here is what I subjected my youngest child to:<br /><br />Together we went shopping to find a wooden spoon. We brought it home and painted it together and named it 'Mr Spoono'. Mr Spoono was going to help my son learn how to manage his behaviour and we would smack him with it because we loved him. <br /><br />After going through this process (I think we used it once), which did not sit well with us, we realised it was barbaric! What a terrible thing to do!! I am lucky my son is now a lovely 17 year old well adjusted boy after going through something like that. Why on earth would you be hurt because someone loved you? <br /><br />Needless to say neither of my other children have ever been 'corrected' with violence, not even a little smack.Jane Nichollshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185395110248629846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-77656233821007180772009-06-22T03:10:47.747-07:002009-06-22T03:10:47.747-07:00@Jane - Thanks for the thumbs-up. I really think b...@Jane - Thanks for the thumbs-up. I really think blogging is a great way for teachers to have a voice about important issues... imagine if we filled the bloggersphere with like-minded blog posts - might be as effective as a hikoi. <br /><br />@Tania - the more I have looked into it and reflected on it, the more I am baffled that anyone could think a smack is anything but a scare tactic. Would be good to talk with reflective parents on the issue. (Not sure about those that just get hot headed about their 'rights' as parents). Thanks for your sharing your experience - and what stunning children you have too!!!! Has Kesia seen herself on the Manaia blog? What stars they were on Friday.Beverly Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08429304628360932037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-78643884774805969682009-06-22T02:12:33.094-07:002009-06-22T02:12:33.094-07:00It would be interesting to talk to people who have...It would be interesting to talk to people who have smacked their children to find out if they think it has proved successful. Personally I have never believed in "smacking" but have people I know who have used this as a "punishment" - I have always noticed (with the children/families I know well) that this punishment has never proved successful and that there are probably way better ways - including everything you have mentioned - to discipline children and teach them the basic values and principles of behaving. It is ridiculous that so much money is being spent on this - and yes, lets hope it makes alot of people think and reflect on their strategies as parents - unfortunately for those parents who do use "force" with their children, i don't think this referendum will make much difference...<br />TaniaTarnzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10410825640350029442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8238763463826457310.post-70560462503057652102009-06-21T12:50:59.776-07:002009-06-21T12:50:59.776-07:00Thank you for such a thoughtful and well articulat...Thank you for such a thoughtful and well articulated post on the ridiculous referendum. We need more voices like this calling for parents to understand this law is not to punish them but to protect children.Jane Nichollshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15185395110248629846noreply@blogger.com